A dark cloud has vanished

Suddenly the angst and the pressure on my shoulders is gone. No more sleepless nights, gnashing teeth and tensed muscles. No worries about if the kids are ok or my job situation. What a relief it is. I do hope there are a chance that my soul can be heal and no more self harm from now on.


My youngest have been badly treated by a teacher at school, last autumn. After reporting it to the principal she reported it to the Police. After providing testimony of all the involved we had to wait half a year for something to happen. During this time I have noticed a difference in my sons behaviour, he have been stressed and unstable. One of the remarkable things I noticed, was that his sense for orderliness was gone, no folded clothes on the chair at night and pieces of lego on the floor. It wasn’t until the Christmas vacation when I heard him singing and cleaning his room I felt that he was back on track again. He often told me that it was messy and loud in the classroom. We made the decision to change school during the Easter vacation.


He cried and didn’t want to leave his friends, but we insisted (and felt horrible). He was cheerfully greeted by his new classmates and made new friends very fast. He later said that it was very calm in his new class and no one interrupted one another and he also very proudly told his father that he worked in the same math book as the rest of the class now. J

The trial was last week. It was a bit weird with lying teachers, accusations and a very professional and clever prosecutor, asking tricky questions (even to me). But as the easy rule says: stick to the truth and you don’t have to remember what you said once. The judgement came a few days ago and it said convicted of assaults and unlawful threats, to pay indemnity to the victims (it was also another boy involved).


Imagine how the tattle goes on at school and among the parents, this is a school with 70 pupils, in a very small village. I’m so glad that I moved a couple of years ago but sorry for ex husband his new family and my friends that have been defending themselves against the gossip. And best of all, the kids don’t have to deal with it either.


As a parent you are fully aware of the negative sides of your child, I don’t see them as little angels. But a bad behaviour from a child is NOT a reason for an adult to behave the same way, or worse. Parents and teachers are authorities and should teach their kids to treat others with respect by showing them a good manner.


This is one of the things that have taken me down. I haven't been able/wanted to talk much about it for respect to those involved. I have cleansed my mind of other disturbancies as well, but perhaps more of that later. I can finally look forward and do the best of my future

Wishing you a lovely weekend.