fredag 26 april 2013

A dark cloud has vanished

Suddenly the angst and the pressure on my shoulders is gone. No more sleepless nights, gnashing teeth and tensed muscles. No worries about if the kids are ok or my job situation. What a relief it is. I do hope there are a chance that my soul can be heal and no more self harm from now on.


My youngest have been badly treated by a teacher at school, last autumn. After reporting it to the principal she reported it to the Police. After providing testimony of all the involved we had to wait half a year for something to happen. During this time I have noticed a difference in my sons behaviour, he have been stressed and unstable. One of the remarkable things I noticed, was that his sense for orderliness was gone, no folded clothes on the chair at night and pieces of lego on the floor. It wasn’t until the Christmas vacation when I heard him singing and cleaning his room I felt that he was back on track again. He often told me that it was messy and loud in the classroom. We made the decision to change school during the Easter vacation.


He cried and didn’t want to leave his friends, but we insisted (and felt horrible). He was cheerfully greeted by his new classmates and made new friends very fast. He later said that it was very calm in his new class and no one interrupted one another and he also very proudly told his father that he worked in the same math book as the rest of the class now. J

The trial was last week. It was a bit weird with lying teachers, accusations and a very professional and clever prosecutor, asking tricky questions (even to me). But as the easy rule says: stick to the truth and you don’t have to remember what you said once. The judgement came a few days ago and it said convicted of assaults and unlawful threats, to pay indemnity to the victims (it was also another boy involved).


Imagine how the tattle goes on at school and among the parents, this is a school with 70 pupils, in a very small village. I’m so glad that I moved a couple of years ago but sorry for ex husband his new family and my friends that have been defending themselves against the gossip. And best of all, the kids don’t have to deal with it either.


As a parent you are fully aware of the negative sides of your child, I don’t see them as little angels. But a bad behaviour from a child is NOT a reason for an adult to behave the same way, or worse. Parents and teachers are authorities and should teach their kids to treat others with respect by showing them a good manner.


This is one of the things that have taken me down. I haven't been able/wanted to talk much about it for respect to those involved. I have cleansed my mind of other disturbancies as well, but perhaps more of that later. I can finally look forward and do the best of my future
Wishing you a lovely weekend.

15 kommentarer:

  1. Oh, I am very happy for you (and your son), that you can leave that behind now! :) Enjoy the sunshine...!

    SvaraRadera
  2. I'm glad that everything went out just fine for you and your family! Enjoy the feeling if the weight lifted from your shoulder... :)

    SvaraRadera
  3. Good for you and your son! I'm so glad that justice has been served, and that you can let it go now. And you taught your children a valuable lesson, to stand up for what they know is right and not back down or let other peoples' lies go unchallenged.

    SvaraRadera
  4. Vad skönt att det är över nu & att ni kan lämna det bakom er och blicka framåt på nåt som är mer positivt!

    STOR kram från Jenny

    SvaraRadera
  5. *hugs* Yes, adults should teach by the quality of their example ... actions speak louder than words.

    SvaraRadera
  6. Vad skönt att det är över nu! Det är så illa hur lärare kan bete sig, de som ska föregå med gott exempel är ibland värre än barnen!

    SvaraRadera
  7. Detta låter hemskt, jag förstår att det hängt över dig. Så skönt att det fått en lösning! Det måste vara extra hemskt när det gäller skyddet av ens barn.

    SvaraRadera
  8. I am so happy to hear that everything went well and that your boy is back on track ... And so is his Momma. The truth and the righteous always win in the end. Much love to you and your family!

    SvaraRadera
  9. I believe the soul is resilient and can heal even after the worst of times. I'm very glad to hear that your dark cloud is gone. :D

    SvaraRadera
  10. I'm so glad to hear that this nightmare has passed for you! I moved my son to a different school when he was in third grade because he was being victimized by a teacher. Not physically, but mentally and emotionally. I understand the gossip that goes on in school communities. I'm so happy that you and your boy have made a fresh start! :)

    SvaraRadera
  11. Kramar! Nu önskar vi ljusare tider..både i hjärtat och ute :)

    SvaraRadera
  12. How awful, Linnea-Maria. A person hates to think of such things going on at a place where they're supposed to be looking after our children's best interests and not abusing them. I'm glad it's over and that justice was served. Much love to you and your family... ♥

    SvaraRadera
  13. I'm sorry to hear that you and your family went through this, but I'm glad that things are resolved for the best.

    SvaraRadera
  14. as everyone said: sorry this had happened and glad it is over, you did a really objective post here i'm sure not everyone could have done this <3

    SvaraRadera